It's relatively easy to build strong relationships with someone who can clearly communicate their needs and preferences, but what if they can't?
Sometimes our partners (or potential partners) give us mixed signals, which can lead to cognitive dissonance.
Here are a few tips on what you can do in that situation.
Reflect on your feelings
Take some time to understand your own feelings and needs in the relationship.
Assess if you're comfortable with the mixed signals and if they align with what you want.
Seek clarity
Ask the person directly about their intentions and feelings.
It's important to have a clear understanding of where they stand to avoid misunderstandings.
Pay attention to actions
Actions can speak louder than words. Observe how the person behaves towards you.
If their actions consistently contradict their words, it may be a sign that their feelings are unclear or inconsistent.
Trust your instincts
Trust your gut instincts. If something feels off or inconsistent, it's important to acknowledge those feelings.
Your intuition can guide you in understanding the situation better.
Set boundaries
Establish boundaries that align with your comfort level.
Communicate your boundaries clearly and respectfully.
It's important to prioritize your well-being and ensure your needs are met.
Assess the relationship
Evaluate the overall dynamics of the relationship.
Consider if the mixed signals are a recurring pattern or a one-time occurrence.
Assess if you're getting the emotional support and consistency you desire.
Seek support if needed
If you find the mixed signals are causing distress and confusion, consider reaching out to a trusted friend or seeking guidance from a relationship counselor or therapist.
They can provide valuable insights and support.
Make decisions based on your needs
Ultimately, make decisions that align with your own needs and happiness.
If the mixed signals persist and leave you feeling uncertain or unhappy, you may need to reconsider the relationship and whether it is healthy for you.
Previously, we talked about self-perception.
