What to do if you and your partner have different life goals: Psychologist's advice

12.06.2023 17:20
Updated: 13.05.2024 21:25

Couples are the strongest when they have mutual goals and aspirations, so they can achieve everything they want together.

But what to do when goals change, and you don't feel like you and your partner want the same things anymore?

Let's find out.

Open Communication

Clearly express what you want to achieve and listen to their desires as well. 

Identify Shared Values

Even if your specific aspirations differ, there may be common principles or values that you both value. 

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Focus on these shared values as a foundation for building a compromise or finding ways to support each other's individual goals.

Compromise and Flexibility

Explore possibilities for compromise and flexibility. 

Be willing to make adjustments and find creative solutions that work for both of you.

Seek Mutual Support

Explore ways to be each other's cheerleaders, offering encouragement, and providing practical support. 

Seek Professional Help

If the differences in goals are causing significant strain in the relationship, seeking the guidance of a couples counselor or therapist can be beneficial. 

Reassess Compatibility

In some cases, the differences in goals may be irreconcilable, and it may be necessary to reassess the compatibility of your long-term vision. 

Evaluate whether the differences in goals are fundamental and if they may hinder your overall happiness and fulfillment in the relationship. 
 

Kate Yakimchuk Author: Kate Yakimchuk Editor internet resource


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  1. Open Communication
  2. Identify Shared Values
  3. Compromise and Flexibility
  4. Seek Mutual Support
  5. Seek Professional Help
  6. Reassess Compatibility