Devaluation in a relationship is a downplaying of the significance of events in a partner’s life, as well as feelings, emotions, experiences, reactions and opinions.
In addition, belittling the importance of goals, aspirations and dreams.
Psychologists believe that devaluing feelings is a kind of defense mechanism of the psyche.
A person belittles the value of other people's successes and achievements in order not to feel envy.
In addition, a person underestimates the feelings and principles of other people in order not to enter into emotional contact if they do not feel the corresponding resource.
Devaluation is a form of emotional abuse. It is disguised as friendly advice, concern or criticism.
However, the main difference from healthy communication is that after devaluation, a person’s mood worsens, self-esteem falls, and doubts arise about the importance of his feelings, thoughts, and achievements.
The person begins to feel insecure, humiliated and misunderstood.
Signs of devaluation in a relationship
A partner who devalues the other may be rude, use offensive language, or put their partner down.
If your romantic partner consistently uses foul language or puts you down, this is a clear sign that he no longer values your feelings and the relationship.
Previously, we talked about the habits of unhappy people.