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Why people don't leave their abusive partners: Psychologist's insights
26.11.2023 17:20
Updated: 13.05.2024 21:22
It's always easier to see an abusive relationship when you're not in one - that's just how abuse works.
Some people can suffer from their partners' actions for years without leaving them - but why?
Here are a few reasons why it happens way too often.
Fear of Harm
People might be scared that if they leave, their partner will hurt them or someone they care about.
The fear of physical or emotional harm can make it hard to break free.
Isolation
Abusers often isolate their partners from friends and family, making it feel like there's no one to turn to for help.
Without a support system, leaving can seem even more daunting.
Financial Dependence
Some individuals rely on their abusive partner for money.
They might worry about how they'll support themselves or their children if they leave, especially if they don't have a job or financial independence.
Guilt and Shame
Abusers often manipulate their partners into feeling guilty or ashamed.
Victims may blame themselves for the abuse or fear judgment from others, making it challenging to seek help or leave.
Hope for Change
Many victims believe their partner will change or that the abuse is temporary.
They might hold onto hope that things will get better, especially if the abuser apologizes or promises to change.
Cultural or Religious Factors
Cultural or religious beliefs can play a significant role.
Some individuals may fear judgment from their community or religious leaders if they break away from a marriage or relationship.
Low Self-Esteem
Abusers often undermine their partner's self-worth.
Victims may believe they don't deserve better or worry that they won't find love elsewhere, contributing to a sense of helplessness.
Lack of Resources
Limited access to resources, such as shelters or legal assistance, can make leaving challenging.
Without a safe place to go or guidance on legal steps, individuals may feel trapped.
