Counterdependency is a behavior in which an adult has difficulty getting close to people and maintaining intimacy.
Lacking the skill of trusting relationships, he deliberately avoids them.
How Counter-Dependency is Formed
The counter-dependency stage begins at approximately six to seven months and lasts until approximately three years of age.
Children begin to physically and emotionally leave the care of their parents.
They have a natural curiosity about the world, strive for independence and resist everything - feeding, dressing, and so on.
How counterdependent people behave
Counterdependent people are often hyper-demanding of themselves; such exactingness is usually expressed in exhausting themselves with work, a constant race to an unattainable ideal, and extreme self-flagellation.
This leads to extreme feelings of loneliness and depression.
What is a counterdependent person afraid of
If I am strong, then my partner must be strong.
In fact, the counterdependent does not recognize the right of others to make mistakes, so his loved ones are afraid to take any initiative, much less be responsible for something.
How to recognize a Counterdependent
With counterdependence, a person has a focus on himself, he is in charge of himself.
It is difficult for such a person to empathize and sympathize with others; he rarely takes into account their interests.
He seems to be deliberately demonstrating his indifference and independence from others - this gives him a sense of his own strength.
