Why some people dislike compliments: psychologist explain

11.06.2023 01:40
Updated: 13.05.2024 21:25

Compliments are usually pleasant to get, unless they are insincere or vulgar.

But some people dislike receiving even the nicest compliments from people they don't know well.

Let's find out, why.

Modesty

Some people are naturally humble and modest, and they may feel uneasy when receiving compliments because it goes against their inclination to downplay their achievements or qualities. 

They may feel that accepting compliments could be seen as boasting or drawing attention to themselves, which they may wish to avoid.

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Self-esteem issues

People with low self-esteem or a negative self-image may struggle to accept compliments. 

They may have a hard time believing positive things about themselves and may feel unworthy or undeserving of praise. 

Compliments can contradict their own negative self-perception, causing discomfort or skepticism.

Cultural or societal influences

Cultural and societal norms can play a role in how people perceive and respond to compliments. 

In some cultures, it may be considered impolite or arrogant to accept compliments easily, and individuals may feel obligated to downplay or reject them. 

Social conditioning and upbringing can also shape personal attitudes towards compliments.

Feelings of vulnerability

Accepting a compliment can feel like opening oneself up to scrutiny or evaluation. 

It requires receiving validation and acknowledgment, which can be uncomfortable for those who are guarded or protective of their emotions.
 

Author: Kate Yakimchuk Editor internet resource

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  1. Modesty
  2. Self-esteem issues
  3. Cultural or societal influences
  4. Feelings of vulnerability