Setting personal boundaries is important for your mental well-being. However, where do you start?
Track your comfort level
Pay attention to your comfort, notice and talk about when someone violates it.
You can communicate your discomfort calmly and politely.
For example, talk about your sensations and feelings through I-messages. Try not to raise your voice or blame the person.
Make a simple request or simply communicate your feelings.
Say no
This is another important forever in defending personal boundaries.
If you feel like you don't want to do something, say no.
Change the focus from other people to yourself. After all, first, you should take care of yourself and your mental comfort.
It is your responsibility to say what you do not want and refuse.
For example: "I really appreciate your offer, but today I'm going to rest and be alone with myself."
Talk about your boundaries to other people
It is important not only to know for yourself what is bad and what is good for you, but also to let others know when you are uncomfortable.
In communication with a person, you can discuss in advance what is definitely unacceptable for you.
Each person has a different experience and thinking, so no one will read your thoughts and guess what is bad for you.
However, you should adhere to the universal rules of communication with no violation of boundaries:
Do not give an unsolicited assessment, advice, opinion.
Do not touch other people without permission.
