Why some people want to come back to their ex-partners: Bittersweet memories

09.06.2023 08:50
Updated: 13.05.2024 21:25

Some people may leave after a breakup, others feel that they would rather return to their former partners after a while.

Even though things didn't go so well last time, people still hope that things can be better this time around.

Psychologists explain why this happens.

Emotional Connection

People may yearn for the familiarity, comfort, and sense of belonging that they once shared. 

The history and shared experiences can create a longing for the connection that was previously established.

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Nostalgia and Idealization

People may focus on the positive aspects of the relationship and romanticize the past, selectively remembering the good times while downplaying the reasons for the breakup. 

Fear of Loneliness or Change

The fear of being alone or venturing into the unknown can lead some people to seek familiarity and security by returning to an ex-partner. 

Unresolved Feelings or Unfinished Business

The desire to go back to an ex can stem from a need for closure or a hope of resolving issues that were left unresolved during the breakup. 

Hope for Change or Growth

People may believe that both they and their ex-partner have evolved or changed in a way that could lead to a more successful relationship. 

They might feel that the circumstances that contributed to the breakup no longer exist, or that both parties have learned from their past mistakes. 
 

Kate Yakimchuk Author: Kate Yakimchuk Editor internet resource


Content
  1. Emotional Connection
  2. Nostalgia and Idealization
  3. Fear of Loneliness or Change
  4. Unresolved Feelings or Unfinished Business
  5. Hope for Change or Growth