You're being used: How to understand the main signs that someone uses you

20.08.2023 08:50
Updated: 13.05.2024 21:24

Have you ever got a feeling that a certain person only calls you when they need a favor?

Recognizing when you're being used in a relationship or situation is important for maintaining your well-being and setting healthy boundaries. 

Here are some signs to help you understand if you're being used.

Unbalanced Reciprocity

The relationship feels one-sided, with you consistently giving more than you receive. 

The other person may only reach out when they need something.

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Inconsistent Communication

They are responsive or attentive only when they want something from you, and their communication drops off when their needs are met.

Lack of Genuine Interest

The person shows little interest in your life, feelings, or well-being outside of what they can gain from you.

Conditional Friendship

They are friendly and kind when they need something but become distant or dismissive when you need support or help.

Only Contacting You for Favors

You're mainly contacted when they need a favor, assistance, or help with something.

Manipulative Behavior

They use guilt-tripping, flattery, or emotional manipulation to get what they want from you.

Ignoring Boundaries

They consistently ignore or push past your boundaries, making you uncomfortable but dismissing your concerns.

Feeling Used or Exploited

You consistently feel like your time, resources, or emotions are being taken advantage of without consideration for your well-being.

Disappear After Receiving Help

They vanish or become distant after they've received the help or resources they wanted from you.
 

Author: Kate Yakimchuk Editor internet resource

Content
  1. Unbalanced Reciprocity
  2. Inconsistent Communication
  3. Lack of Genuine Interest
  4. Conditional Friendship
  5. Only Contacting You for Favors
  6. Manipulative Behavior
  7. Ignoring Boundaries
  8. Feeling Used or Exploited
  9. Disappear After Receiving Help