It occurs in about 65% of families and has been identified and studied in many different cultures.
Why parents of the first child love more
Usually younger children are loved more than older ones. Psychologists explain this by the fact that the feeling of motherhood (paternity) becomes deeper with age. If a girl and a boy grow up in the family, the mother, as a rule, loves the daughter more.
Is it possible to love children in different ways
Loving your children in different ways is natural. It is worth thinking about if the attractiveness of one of them becomes too strong for one of the parents, if we are not just touched, but enchanted by the child. Such excessive feelings can hurt both their object and other children.
How does this affect "unloved" children
When we single out one of the children, the rest feel rejected and unwanted. This leads to a number of problems both in childhood and adulthood.
Unloved children are not confident in themselves and their abilities. They do not trust others and cannot build constructive relationships.
Such children carry this model into adult relationships. They try to be "good enough", give up their own interests for the interests of a partner, and think that they can only be loved for something.
