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Don't be a people pleaser: Psychologist's tips
01.10.2023 22:10
Updated: 13.05.2024 21:23
Most people want to be liked and loved, and they often assume that being a people pleaser is the easiest way to achieve that.
In fact, most people don't like people pleasers - so you can accidentally get the opposite effect and only ruin your relationships.
Here are a few reasons why trying to please everyone around is a bad thing.
Neglecting Yourself
When you're always focused on making others happy, you might forget to take care of yourself. Your needs and desires are important too.
Stress and Anxiety
Trying to please everyone can be stressful and make you anxious. You might worry about what others think all the time.
Losing Your Identity
People pleasers often go along with what others want, even if it's not what they truly want.
Over time, you might lose touch with your own likes and dislikes.
Boundaries
It's essential to have boundaries to protect your well-being.
Being a people pleaser can lead to poor boundaries, and you might find it hard to say "no" when you need to.
Resentment
If you constantly put others first, you may start to feel resentful or taken advantage of because your efforts aren't always appreciated or reciprocated.
Not Everyone Will Be Happy
No matter how hard you try, you can't make everyone happy all the time. It's okay if some people aren't pleased with your choices or actions.
Authentic Relationships
Authentic relationships are built on honesty and being yourself.
When you're a people pleaser, it's harder to have genuine connections because you're not always showing your true self.
Conclusion
You should be your first priority, so never neglect yourself to help friends or colleagues.
That's how you can become more independent, and people will respect you more.
