Don't punish yourself: Psychologist's tips

04.11.2023 17:30
Updated: 13.05.2024 21:22

Self-aware people are often too harsh on themselves, so they tend to punish themselves for the smallest mistakes they make.

While it might seem fair to them, this approach actually harms them more.

There are a few reasons why.

Learning Opportunity

Mistakes are a natural part of life. When you make a mistake, it's a chance to learn and do better next time. 

It's like when you're learning to ride a bike – you may fall, but that's how you figure out how to balance and ride better.

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Self-Compassion

Punishing yourself makes you feel bad and stressed. Being kind to yourself, like a good friend, can help you handle mistakes better. 

Imagine if a friend made a mistake – you'd be understanding and supportive, right? Treat yourself the same way.

Motivation

Instead of punishment, use mistakes as motivation. Think about how you can improve or avoid the same mistake in the future. 

It's like a map showing you a better way.

Everyone Makes Mistakes

Remember, everyone makes mistakes, even the people you look up to. It's part of being human. So, there's no need to be too hard on yourself.

Progress

Mistakes are steps on the path to progress. The important thing is to keep moving forward and not get stuck in feeling bad about them.

So, don't be too tough on yourself when you make a mistake. 

Treat it as a chance to learn, be kind to yourself, use it as motivation, and remember that making mistakes is something we all do.
 

Kate Yakimchuk Author: Kate Yakimchuk Editor internet resource


Content
  1. Learning Opportunity
  2. Self-Compassion
  3. Motivation
  4. Everyone Makes Mistakes
  5. Progress