Psychologist's tips: Forgiving is hard – but it's time to learn it

01.01.2024 01:40
Updated: 13.05.2024 21:21

It's not always easy to forgive people who hurt you, and it's even harder for some people.

Meanwhile, forgetting people is important, because your hard feeling towards them can hurt you even more.

Here are a few tips that might help you a lot.

Acknowledge Your Feelings

Start by acknowledging and accepting your feelings of hurt, anger, or resentment towards the person who has wronged you. 

It's okay to feel these emotions, as they are a natural response to being hurt.

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Understand the Situation

Try to gain a better understanding of the situation and the reasons behind the person's actions. 

This doesn't mean justifying or excusing their behavior, but rather getting a broader perspective on what might have led them to act the way they did.

Let Go of Resentment

Holding onto resentment can weigh you down and prevent you from moving forward. 

Recognize that forgiveness is a choice and consciously decide to release the negative feelings you have towards the person. 

Understand that forgiving doesn't mean forgetting or condoning their actions, but rather freeing yourself from the emotional burden.

Focus on Healing

Shift your focus towards your own healing and well-being. 

Engage in self-care activities that bring you joy and help you process your emotions. 

This can include talking to a trusted friend or therapist, practicing mindfulness or meditation, or engaging in hobbies that bring you peace and happiness.

Set Boundaries

Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to maintain the same relationship or trust as before. 

It's important to set healthy boundaries to protect yourself and prevent further harm. 

This may involve limiting contact with the person or establishing clear expectations for future interactions.

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Kate Yakimchuk Author: Kate Yakimchuk Editor internet resource


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  1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
  2. Understand the Situation
  3. Let Go of Resentment
  4. Focus on Healing
  5. Set Boundaries