Managing your anger: Psychologist's tips

28.11.2023 14:50
Updated: 13.05.2024 21:22

People can control lots of their emotions and feelings, but it's way harder when it's anger, simply because of the nature of that emotion.

Meanwhile, anger management is vital for everyone who wants to have a good career, relationships, and social skills.

Here are a few things you can try that can help you manage your anger more effectively.

Recognize Early Signs

Imagine feeling a storm starting far away. Notice when you're getting a bit upset—the quicker, the better. 

Take Deep Breaths

Picture blowing up a balloon slowly. Breathe in slowly through your nose, and then exhale slowly through your mouth. 

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It's like letting the air out of the balloon, calming you down.

Count to Ten

Think of it as a countdown before a rocket takes off. When you feel anger rising, count slowly to ten. 

It's like giving yourself time before the "blast-off" of strong emotions.

Walk Away

Imagine taking a break from a game. If you feel too angry, walk away from the situation. 

It's like pressing a pause button, so you can cool down and think.

Use "I" Statements

Instead of saying "you make me angry," say "I feel upset when." 

It's like sharing your feelings without pointing fingers.

Practice Relaxation Techniques

Imagine your body as a training ground. Try techniques like squeezing a stress ball or tensing and relaxing your muscles. 

Use Humor

Picture telling a joke to a friend. Find a funny side to the situation—it's like using laughter to weaken the anger villain.

Write it Down

Imagine being a reporter for your feelings. Write down what's making you angry. 

It's like reporting the news to yourself, helping you understand the situation better.
 

Kate Yakimchuk Author: Kate Yakimchuk Editor internet resource


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  1. Recognize Early Signs
  2. Take Deep Breaths
  3. Count to Ten
  4. Walk Away
  5. Use "I" Statements
  6. Practice Relaxation Techniques
  7. Use Humor
  8. Write it Down