Where lack of confidence comes from: Psychologist's insights

16.09.2023 20:50
Updated: 13.05.2024 21:23

Confident people attract others and generally enjoy their lives more - but it's not that easy for everyone to find that confidence in themselves.

It's way easier to lose self-confidence than to build it, and there are a few reasons for that.

Let's find out more why your lack of confidence might appear.

Negative experiences hit hard 

Sometimes, if you've had bad experiences or people have been unkind to you, it can make you doubt yourself.

Comparing yourself to others is bad for you

When you compare yourself to others and feel like you don't measure up, it can lower your confidence.

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Fear of failure

If you're really afraid of making mistakes or failing, it can make you doubt your abilities.

We all need support

Not having people who believe in you or support you can also affect your self-confidence.

Our mindset can fail us

Sometimes, the way you think about yourself and the things you tell yourself can impact your confidence. 

If you often think negatively about yourself, it can lower your confidence.

Criticism hurts

If you've been criticized a lot in the past, especially when you were younger, it can stick with you and make you less confident.

Perfectionists suffer a lot

Trying to be perfect all the time can lead to low confidence because it's hard to live up to such high standards.

Unrealistic goals lead to failure

If you set goals that are too difficult or unrealistic, and then you don't achieve them, it can hurt your confidence.

Conclusion

All these little details combined might affect your self-perception a lot - and that's why people need therapy and positive reinforcement sometimes.

You're capable of more than you might think, and you can become a better version of yourself - just work on it!
 

Kate Yakimchuk Author: Kate Yakimchuk Editor internet resource


Content
  1. Negative experiences hit hard 
  2. Comparing yourself to others is bad for you
  3. Fear of failure
  4. We all need support
  5. Our mindset can fail us
  6. Criticism hurts
  7. Perfectionists suffer a lot
  8. Unrealistic goals lead to failure
  9. Conclusion